क्रीमचं बिस्किट

Being Human…

 Sunday, January 6, 2013 at 12:57pm ·

Intro- Why women are getting sexually harassed? Why generally guys pass lewd comments about women? Why women have to deal with acid attacks? Why x boyfriends murder their x girlfriends, why it does not happen the other way? Why can’t guys accept NO? Why rage leads to rape? Why girls are brutally tortured? An effort to find out the answers.

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Imagine a special ward. The ward full of male youth stabbed, kicked between the legs badly, hurt, castrated.  Oh, is it beyond imagination? But that’s the reality… It’s going to be so after few years for sure. The way things are going, we can expect all such things to take place. And more than that, we need to prepare ourselves for such things, at least mentally.
Take a leap in future… 10 to 15 years later…
Back to the special ward...
Can you guess why this youth is in this condition today? That’s right! Its all happened when girls were trying to defend themselves from getting raped…  Now many towns are running the special classes for weapon training. It’s a crash course. The trainers just need to give few tips and to make the females aware of their hidden potential. And so now many women are safe because they can use the weapons confidently and the law is supporting them entirely. Well, after this special law government was afraid of being called as biased and losing almost 50 percent of the votes, so it has asked all the hospitals to make an arrangement for ‘Male Only’ ward. Hospitals have made this provision and patients here are attended by only Male professionals. Female doctors are not allowed to examine these patients. Of course, it is for the further safety of these patients.  So the patients here are comparatively feeling safe as they believe that, same gender won’t harm as much the opposite gender possibly could have… Both the genders are made secured by some or the arrangement. So in next election this government is very sure of the victory.
One more important aspect of this special law allowing women to use weapon in self defense, is yet to be told. If you are a female reader you will definitely feel happy about it but if you are a male, you might feel indifferent. Because of this law and open permission to use weapon against potential threat of a rapist, immediately in just a few years it has created a balance in the male-female ratio which was skewed for so many years. No solution has worked so wonderful till date to strike out a balance in male-female ratio. So now the government is happy about this achievement also. As now this balance is created half of the population is expecting that they won’t have to use weapons as every male would have the female partner and so males won’t have to go hunting to satisfy their physical and sexual needs as it was argued a few years back in defense of the rapist and so also, the rape rate will be going down. But of course, this is just a hope. Nothing is guaranteed in this country.
Back to present….
It all started with Delhi gang rape incident and the brutal treatment the girl received after rape from the accused. The country talked about it. The youth is out on the street protesting. They want a justice for the girl who is fighting hard for her life. They want a justice for many girls whose lives were ruined because of such nasty characters in the society. They want a tougher punishment rather a death sentence for the all the accused of gang rape case. All the country is talking about it. News channels, news papers, social networking sites, text messages are flooded with all kind of discussions ranging from prayers for her life and death equally to different kinds of punishments for the accused. Everyone is asking that where this society is heading to. Are we living in a stone age?  It’s not that such an incident took place in this country for the first time. But no one was able to turn a blind eye to the brutal treatment given to the victim after rape. Here in this country, on an average, there is one rape incident every hour. We all have talked about this before also. But Delhi gang rape happened at such time when youth understood the power of being together, the power and the affect of Gandhian kind of silent protest, political games, common people getting used as pawn in this game, the power every vote so it decided to retaliate to make government understand the meaning of being thrown out of the position. But still the youth shouting there on roads know that this is not a solution. And tomorrow also, if every woman and a girl start using weapon to safeguard herself they will have this in their minds that this wouldn’t be a true solution. How long can they keep stabbing humans from other gender… Or even throwing red chilly powder or spraying black pepper spray in their eyes… It could help to keep their bodies unharmed but what about the souls? Will the soul really be at peace? Also, there is one more angle to it. The woman who might want to use the weapon would also have the fear in the mind that, what if tomorrow someone attacks on my brother, son or husband in the same manner… So harming someone can’t be a real solution.
What is the real solution then? There is one advertise which says something like Agar har ma apne bachche ko chutakibhar imandari khilaye to desh imandar banegahi! This ad implies that, if every mother teaches her child what is really right and what is wrong and teaches to behave accordingly then the whole country will be on the right path. So it’s mainly about upbringing and parenting. Parents are the main role models for the children. Parent definitely does not mean only mother and father, it means the one who is a caretaker or the one who nurtures and raises the child, so it could be anyone, but generally its mother and the father. The child learns and imbibes the values through observing the elders around him. It is very important for a child to know how these parents treat other people in the family, how do they treat each other, how they treat other gender person in the society, their behaviour, their values and many more things. And probably the Indian president’s son with his comments about women protesting at India Gate as Dented and Painted proved the overall mentality of Male chauvinist Indian Society and the thought process also as how men generally think about women who do something they don’t like or they feel offended about. If they feel so they easily pass sexual comments, they assassinate and label the character. They feel it’s their right to show their disappointment in this way. And this kind of mentality and thought process slowly lead to incidents like rape.
How does this mentality lead to something like rape? What is the relation in these two things?
That’s an easy answer. For years society has told a girl how to behave and how not to? Its not only a girl who try to act accordingly but her brother, male friends, colleagues or every person from the other gender try to play a moral police’s role and judge her behaviour. So whenever she does not behave according to so called society rules, she is being targeted. A few people from other gender go to a level saying that if she is not behaving according to pre-decided rules we must teach her a lesson. And here, teaching a lesson means nothing else than sexually harassing her. That’s the way she is being punished. Also, there goes a thought process that, if any girl is wearing the fashionable outfit or comparatively smaller length outfit then it is assumed by male around that she is available. Also, if the female is carrying out a sexy outfit it is also assumed that she is inviting an attraction and further sexual activity. So she should not provoke men!
It is argued that media, movies, item songs are objectifying women and that is the reason all such rape incidents are happening around. But why do we forget that we are the only ones who are having remote in our hand and we can choose what to see and what not to. But we are choosing to see it so do we need to say anything further? The argument of blaming media is not that strong. It’s just an excuse. But at the same time we can’t deny the role of media also. The visual effects are long lasting and have more impact. So, even media needs to be more matured and more thoughtful about what is to be shown. No one can get away with shallow excuses. The choice of what is to be seen and what is to be shown revolves around the mindset and thought process of the different sections of the society.
So, if all such problems and brutal actions are outcome of the thought process and mindset, then solution lies in changing it. Indian society needs to change its mindset. This might not happen in a year or so but if we start right now, it would definitely take place in at least next 15-20 years. Ideally to change it all, there should be a respect for everyone in the society; it should not be dependent on the gender, colour, caste or anything else, treating everyone else in the same way we expect others to treat us could change this picture. It should start from childhood itself. After a person grows up it becomes difficult to undo what is being taught in the childhood. As we grow apart from parents, family, relatives, friends, schoolmates, teachers and a few other things affect the mindset. But if the person is thinking in wrong way and all other factors are acting in a way which helps maintaining the wrong things as right then even it’s not going to change the mindset. So option remains to introspect and being honest with oneself. What is being human after all…